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THE MATRIARCH

THE PHILIPPINES IS PREDOMINANTLY A CATHOLIC NATION AND MAYBE THIS IS THE REASON WHY FAMILY IS CONSIDERED AS MATRIARCHAL INSTEAD OF PATRIARCHAL WHERE WOMEN IS AHEAD OF MEN WHEN IT COMES TO FAMILY AFFAIRS.

I WANT TO SHARE WITH YOU AN ARTICLE I READ RECENTLY FROM MANILA BULLETIN ENTITLED ACCEPTANCE BY VERONICA VINE J. AUDINE. IT IS HER PERSONAL STORY ABOUT HER GRANDMOTHER OR LOLA.

WHEN SHE WAS A KID SHE DOES NOT LIKE HER LOLA FOR REASONS THAT SHE WAS ALWAYS SCOLDED, ALWAYS NAGGED AND ALWAYS WOKE HER UP EARLY.

HER GRANDMOTHER  IS A KIND OF A BOSSY PERSON NOT ONLY TO HER BUT ALSO TO HER MOM AND DAD. HER LOLA HAD A SARI-SARI STORE AND ALWAYS ASKED HER TO BUY A MERCHANDISE IN THE MARKET WHICH SHE DOES NOT LIKE.

EVEN HER COUSINS DOES NOT LIKE HER LOLA BECAUSE OF HER STUBBORN ATTITUDE
SOMEONE WHO DID NOT LISTEN TO ANY ONE'S IDEA AND A KIND OF A SELFISH PERSON.

HER MOTHER ALWAYS TELL HER THAT DESPITE OF HER LOLA'S ATTITUDE SHE SHOULD NOT HATE HER GRANDMOTHER OR LOLA. EVEN WHEN HER MOTHER TOLD HER THAT HER LOLA HAD FAVORITES SOMEONE AMONG HER SIBLINGS AND SOMETIMES NEVER FAIR WITH HER TREATMENT ESPECIALLY TO HER MOTHER. BUT DESPITE OF THIS, HER MOTHER LOVE HER GRANDMOTHER.

WHEN HER FAMILY MOVED OUT FROM THE COMPOUND OF HER GRANDMOTHER SHE WAS VERY HAPPY AND THOUGHT THAT FINALLY SHE MOVED OUT FROM THE DEVIL'S PLACE.

ONCE IN A WHILE, SHE VISITED HER GRANDMOTHER BROUGHT SOME FRUITS AND TO PAY RESPECT BUT STILL SHE DOES NOT LIKE HER.

ON HER GRADUATION DAY, SOMEONE TAPPED HER FROM THE BACK WHILE THE MASS WAS ABOUT TO START. IT WAS HER LOLA AND HANDED HER 500 PESO BILL. IN HER SURPRISE SHE ALMOST JUMPED FOR JOY. IN THE FIRST PLACE, SHE DID NOT EXPECT HER LOLA TO BE THERE.

AS SHE WATCHED HER LOLA WALKING AWAY, SHE WAS STRUCK WITH GUILT FEELING. HER LOLA CAME TO SEE HER, MADE AN EFFORT THOUGH SHE HAD HAVING A HARD TIME WALKING. SHE MADE AN EXTRA EFFORT TO RIDE A TRICYCLE JUST TO BE THERE IN HER GRADUATION.

AFTER HIGH SCHOOL, SHE MOVED TO MANILA AND HAD NO TIME TO VISIT HER GRANDMOTHER. SHE ONLY GET TO SEE HER OCCASIONALLY.

TWO YEARS LATER HER GRANDFATHER DIED. SHE FELT BAD ABOUT FOR LOLA BECAUSE SHE LOVE VERY MUCH HER LOLO. HER CHILDREN THEN TALKED ABOUT HER LOLA AND WAS SO CONCERNED ABOUT HER HEALTH AND HER DIFFICULTY TO LIVE ALONE. WHILE LISTENING TO THE CONVERSATION, SHE IS HOPING THAT HER GRANDMOTHER WILL NOT LIVE WITH THEM. SHE IS STILL BEHAVE'S LIKE A BRAT.

ONE DAY SHE HAD A PERSONAL TALK WITH HER MOTHER AND THE SUBJECT OF THEIR CONVERSATION IS ABOUT HER LOLA. HER MOTHER TALK A LOT ABOUT HER LOLA AND LOOK BACK TO THE TIME WHEN HER LOLA CARRIED HER MOTHER AT HER LOLA'S BACK. AND GUARDED HER MOTHER WITH HER OWN LIFE.

SHE REALIZED THEN THAT HER LOLA IS JUST BEING PROTECTIVE, WANTING EVERYBODY IN HER FAMILY TO LEARN. THIS STORY CHANGED HER PERSPECTIVE AND HER INDIFFERENCE WITH HER LOLA.

THE AUTHOR GAIN SOMETHING FROM HER MISTAKES. AND THE MOST IMPORTANT THING, SHE LEARNED ABOUT ACCEPTANCE.

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